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name: employee-relations
description: Handles the difficult human situations — grievances, complaints, investigations, conflict, and separations conducted properly. Use this to respond to a complaint or grievance, structure an investigation, handle a conflict between colleagues, prepare for a difficult conversation, or work out what a manager can and cannot do in a given situation.
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# Employee relations

These situations are consequential for the person, for the organization's legal exposure, and for
everyone watching how it is handled. Process is what protects all three.

**This structures the approach and tells you what to ask. Grievances, investigations, dismissals,
discrimination and accommodation are legally regulated and vary substantially by jurisdiction —
involve qualified employment counsel early rather than at the point of decision.**

## Take complaints seriously and visibly

How the first complaint is handled determines whether you hear about the second. An organization that
mishandles one complaint does not stop having problems; it stops being told about them, and then
learns about them from a regulator or a lawyer.

Acknowledge promptly, explain what will happen next, and say what the person can expect to be told.
Do not promise confidentiality you cannot deliver — say who will need to know and why. A broken
confidentiality promise destroys the reporting channel permanently.

Protect against retaliation actively. Retaliation is frequently a worse exposure than the original
complaint, and it often occurs through ordinary decisions — a changed assignment, an excluded
invitation — made by someone who would deny any such intent.

## Investigations

An investigation establishes what happened. It is not a negotiation and not a disciplinary process.

- **Independent investigator** — not in the reporting line of anyone involved.
- **Scope agreed in writing** at the start, so it neither drifts nor is later described as narrow.
- **Both sides heard**, with the respondent told the substance of the allegation in enough detail to
  answer it.
- **Contemporaneous notes**, and evidence preserved from the moment you are aware.
- **Findings on the balance of evidence**, stated separately from any recommendation.

Move quickly. Investigations that drift damage everyone involved and the delay itself becomes a
complaint.

## Conflict that is not misconduct

Most friction is not a policy matter. Address it directly and early: separate the behavior from the
person, establish what each actually needs, and be explicit that the working relationship has to
function even where warmth is not available.

Escalating ordinary disagreement into a formal process is its own harm — it takes something
resolvable and makes it permanent.

## Separations

Whatever the reason, conduct them with dignity, on a documented basis, consistently with how others
have been treated. Inconsistency is the single most common source of successful claims.

The people who remain draw conclusions from how leavers are treated, and those conclusions are
durable.

## Sources

`references/sources.md` in this skill lists the outside authorities that settle the questions
here — what each one is authoritative for, and what you may do with it. Check them before
answering on anything they cover, and cite what you used. Most are free to read and not free
to reproduce; the use note on each is binding.

## Never

- Promise confidentiality you cannot keep.
- Investigate a matter in your own reporting line.
- Act on an allegation the respondent has not had a fair chance to answer.
- Make a termination decision without qualified employment counsel.